For a young teen,(13-14) what do YOU think is over protective for a parent?
"Heres the rules for my parents.
NO feathers untill im out of the house
NO other piercings other then one in my ears. EVER untill im out of the house
NO dying my hair untill im out of the house
NO tight jeans. i can only wear boot cut or super saggy loose skinny jeans
my parents check what clothes i buy in order for me to buy them
I cant go out untill im 16 with a guy even though my four brothers could when they were 13.
I cant ride my bike any more then 2 miles by myself even though my brother could ride his 9 miles by his self when HE was MY age. wtf?
I couldnt wear make up untill i was 13 1/2
if i get any where below a B in school im kicked out of ALL sports.
My dads going to every dance in highschool i have to make sure i dont dance slutty. soo im not going to any dances because i dont want him stalking me.
Do you think this is over protective? im 14 in three months. I do.
Whats your idea of over protective parents? is it anything like mine??"
With all the drinking, drugs, and sex prevalent in society today, your parents are justified in trying to protect you. Young kids are impressionable and peers make it hard to say "no" when faced with a decision that immaturity deems "fun". One bad decision can ruin your life.
Your parents have rules for a reason. Perhaps you should try talking with them about WHY they have such stringent rules for you, and not for your brothers. Understanding your parents and having them understand you is part of parent-child communication.
I know it’s almost impossible to see things from their side because I couldn’t relate to my parents at all when I was your age. But now I’m older and wiser and looking back I can see the reason your parents say NO to "feathers, hair dye, piercings, tight jeans".
Believe it or not, these things that seem important to you now will be totally unimportant later in life. What IS important is getting your education and learning to fit into society where you’ll be a responsible adult.
Being a teenager is not easy. But, do the best you can, learn all you can, and abide by the rules for now. Whatever you do, don’t rebel against parental authority. It will only be for the worse.
"At what age do you stop giving your kids lots of Christmas presents?"
Your question has a key clue: "LOTS" of Christmas presents. Giving Christmas gifts is a practice every family has if they can afford it. But over-giving is the best way to spoil any child.
In my opinion when a child stops believing in Santa Claus is a good time to hone down the amount of gifts. The family budget then decides how much to buy.
I’ve seen my own adult daughter give way too much to her 3 children and then has a hard time paying the bills. The kids are spoiled, thinking they’re entitled to the same expensive gifts their friends have (with a two-income family).
Give the child one gift he or she really really wants. Then give them a couple of gifts you think they want or you know they need or will appreciate.
But, also, during the Christmas season, make sure they give something to their siblings and others in the family. Start early in the pre-school years. Don’t let them just be the takers or they may become selfish inconsiderate adults.
It’s a parent’s job to raise kids who become responsible, thoughtful members of society.
If I seek professional help for my child, am I considered a bad mom?
I am 25 and I’m having trouble with my 7 year old. Mainly her behavior and listening. She is a good child everywhere but at home. I don’t have anyone to get advice from. I have a mother who I should be able to turn to for help but she don’t help me, she just puts me down. So today I met with a therapist to get help since I don’t have anyone else. I felt that it’s a good thing because i’ll learn how to parent her better and I’ll know what to do in rough situations. I’ve tried time outs, grounding, removing her toys and she don’t care that I do those things. She don’t care that I just Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: Is it still appropriate to spank an eleven year old?
"I am eleven years old and I still get spanked. I have to pull my pants and underwear down and my dad always spanks me. This is my parents’ primary method of discipline. One time I showed my mom from the parenting book she was reading where it stated that you should spank a child until he is six years old, if you choose to do so. "It’s not against the law," was her defiant answer. Isn’t that just plain ignorant? I mean why read the book if you’re not going to take its advice? And studies show that kids who are spanked as a punishment are more
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"My daughter who will be 13 in a few weeks time has become a child from hell!! I know its all hormones and her age, but over the past year she has become boy mad! She has a boyfriend t he min and sees him once a week, but she continually flirts with other boys. At the beginning of this year we caught her talking to a boy she knew on web cam in a provocative position! needless to say she was immediately put on a computer ban and had her mobile fone taken off her. Last week, because her behaviour had improved we let her ban go but she was only allowed to use the computer in our presence and only we know the password and constantly check her social networking sites. But yesterday
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We are what we think about. That statement goes back in time and has been proven in many lives. The power of positive thinking has been known for generations, yet the power of negative thinking can also be understood when contemplated. Ronda Byrne, a few years ago in her powerful book, The Secret, disclosed that we draw unto ourselves that about which we think.
Through news reports and medical propaganda, parents today think differently from their predecessors. I came across an article relating to this and wanted to pass in on.
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Excerpted from a Charlotte NC newspaper, authored by John Rosemond.
“I thought hard about that for several hours and came to the conclusion that Read the rest of this entry »
Is Your Child A Bully, or Being Bullied?
Bullying is a form of aggression in which one person uses perceived or real power to intentionally and repeatedly cause distress or harm to another person. The bullying can take on one or more forms.
Physical bullying involves actions that harm a victim or the victim’s belongings. Verbal bullying uses vocal insults teasing or name calling.
Social bullying is less noticeable, but still has significant effects on a victim. It can include things like spreading gossip or rumors, excluding a person from a group or activity, lying or playing nasty practical jokes.
Psychological bullying can include threat, intimidation, stalking and manipulation. Read the rest of this entry »
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According to a Reader’s Digest article the United States is only 10th out of 13 countries who make teaching obedience and respect a priority with their children. In my opinion, that’s at the bottom of the totem pole!
What has happened to parenting? And, is it no wonder so many kids in the United States are out of control?
As children age, after having gotten their own ways by arguing and temper tantrums, and after talking back to their parents from toddler years on up, young adolescents gain the power to control situations at home, school, and social environments.
I found the Digest article quite disturbing, and the statistics alone explain why there is so much Read the rest of this entry »
What do you do when you have poison ivy and the kids are bored?
Arthur Miller once said, "You cannot catch a child’s spirit by running after it. You must stand still, and for love it will soon itself return."
How true this is! Imagine suffering from poison ivy all over your body. The itching becomes so unbearable at first that the only relief you get is to become absolutely motionless, lying still and letting the itch subside. (I actually do this with mosquito bites, too!) Read the rest of this entry »
Are Parents Killing Kids By Their Own Bad Eating Habits?
Obesity in America is a huge problem today. Where our children are concerned, it can shorten their lives; and seriously affect them mentally, physically, and socially.
Through news reports and research we know that childhood obesity has been rising at an astonishing and frighteningly fast rate. There are more obese children now than ever before. As parents, we are the culprit. Our own careless eating habits have spilled over into our children’s lives.
We are their role models!!
What do you want to do about it? Read the rest of this entry »
